Monday, September 24, 2012

Gray hair: A luxury anyone can afford.

    I got one of those back-handed compliments on my gray hair from a stranger today: "I wish I could do it. But, I'm afraid of looking old....oh, gawd....but YOURS looks great... really!!" 
    No harm, no foul. It's happened before.
    Charla Krupp, author of "How Not to Look Old," once said, "it's such a luxury to be able to go gray. Because it is an aging look, and it means that you don't care about people knowing your age." 
    She was probably right. Thankfully, I've never been shy about stating my age - it's 56, for the record - or asking others their number, especially when playing 'Who do you know?' The gentler, albeit sneakier, way is asking the year they graduated high school, but sometimes I forget and just blurt it out, often taking people aback.
 
      But, does it bother me? The looking older part, I mean?
      No. But, admittedly, I'm married. I'm not in the meat market, the job market, or any other competitive situation that I'm aware of.
      My paternal grandmother, whom we called Mere Mere, had silver hair for as long as I can remember. She was completely white by age 40. (That's her at my folks' wedding in 1954, probably at age 48 or so.) I always thought she was gorgeous. Beyond elegant. And, her age? It didn't matter a damn to me. She was Mere Mere, and she was fabulous.
     So, if "being able" to go gray is a luxury, I wish more people would lounge in the lap of it, especially that well-meaning stranger in the shoe store. But, the luxury isn't in the not caring. It's in the letting go, and just being who you are.

23 comments:

A Fan said...

Fascinating what strangers will say. . . that comment was rude. imho. :-) Silver rocks! Have an aunt and uncle both pushing 80 who BOTH still dye brown. We love them dearly, but it's creepy. :-)

Carol Starr Schneider said...

Great photo! Great blog! Great BG! I'm still dying my hair. But yay!

Cathy Hamilton said...

AF, agreed on the creepiness. My mother-in-law's best friend died hers jet black well into her 80s. My kids were scared to death of her. CSS, you're in Hollywood. You're exempt! xx

Joyce said...

I'm 66 & my hair has been silver for a number of years. I didn't waste either the time or the money trying to keep it brown. I didn't want to have the gray "skunk stripe" that so many older women have when they don't get to hairdresser for touch-ups, didn't want hair that was dry & damaged from constant coloring, didn't want to look blonde when I never was! I am who I am! Accept me for that, silver hair & all!

Anonymous said...

Loved your story, feel exactly the same way and hey I'm 56 too! Been a silver haired sister for about four years now. Get compliments all the time....never got any before. I don't get why women are so afraid of going natural....it's VERY liberating and though I'm not in the market either some men find it sexy and confident on some women as long as they still have style and class.
I got a good laugh over the comment about the older people who still dye. LOL. My Aunt Mary dyed her hair jet black also and wore a beehive until the day she died, well into her 80's. It IS creepy cause it's so unnatural!

Elizabeth J. Neal said...

Thankfully, I've never been shy about stating my age - it's 56, for the record - or asking others their number, especially when playing 'Who do you know?' The gentler, albeit sneakier, way is asking the year they graduated high school, but sometimes I forget and just blurt it out, often taking people aback. luxury travel

Shantell J. Ortega said...

It has become almost impossible to find quality term papers these days. My students submitted a bunch of terribly compiled data in the name of term papers. Would you please share with them how to do this right? I have been reading your blogs and if anyone can get through to them it is you.

jowdjbrown said...

I wish more people would lounge in the lap of it, especially that well-meaning stranger in the shoe store. But, the luxury isn't in the not caring. It's in the letting go, and just being who you are. Manhattan Hair Removal

umar kk said...



Eek! I just stumbled across your blog. I love it! Thanks for all the ideas ... I esp. love this one.
Best Electrolysis in Manhattan

TomKorn said...

It is realy luxary wedding! I want to tell you about my discovery and advice it for you! I'm 3rd year university and I can say that I am a diligent student! But sometimes I just do not have enough strength and inspiration to write a thesis! Often a team of professionals to help me finish my efforts! It is college paper writing service , they are cool!

Anonymous said...

Generous people earn their money well. That is, they engage in work ina way that is in line with their principles, and not illegal or immoral. They use what they need for their own requirements, icnluding leisure, luxury, and security, and are then able to use the rest for the good of others. order essay

Richard C. Lambert said...

The most important relationship that exists in Cuba is the family relationship. Political interests shouldn’t work against families.’’ what to do in dubai

jowdjbrown said...

The gentler, albeit sneakier, way is asking the year they graduated high school, but sometimes I forget and just blurt it out, often taking people aback. uber select alternative maui

Claudia Goffe said...

Great blog, I love your quote about going grey being a luxury. It's important to make sure hair is healthy rather than damaged from too many chemicals. That's why my boyfriend uses beard oil from beyond beards for a moisturized and healthier look.

Addison adolf said...
This comment has been removed by the author.
Addison adolf said...

We are offering Car rental service in Washington Dc in affordable price for your Picnics and parties........
Sedan Service Washington Dc

Raza abbas said...

Pretty cool post. It’s really very nice and useful post. Thanks for sharing this with us!it’s my first visit.
plak bh

Andrew Marsh said...

I am looking forward to having that gray hair. But for now, I am focused on using beard growth formula to grow my beard.

top essay writing services review said...

Wow grey hair is really unusual and such experiements are forbidden in my college, it's really strict! My professors don't even allow to use top essay writing services review to find out about best essay writing services!

Mary Green said...

Just check feedback of the best online resume reviewers in case you need a good resume. You won't pass the competition if you don't have a good resume.

Anonymous said...

Thanks for your post. Click to play:

- slither.io
- wings.io
- vanar.io
- Emoji Facebook
- diep.io

My Playlist said...

Your blog is extremely good, excellent operate... More than likely a lot of will certainly believe us regardless of whether they just don't take time to show
AVG Coupon code

roney ahmed said...

هل تبحث شركة نقل اثاث بالمدينة المنورة تقدم شركتنا
نقل اثاث بالمدينه المنوره
افضل الخدمات باقل الاسعار.حيث أن عمليات نقل اثاث بالمدينة المنورة او بالمملكة العربية السعودية من اكثر الأعمال المطلوبة
نقل اثاث بالمدينة المنورة
لكنها كذلك من أكثر العمليات التي تحتاج الي دقة في اعمال الفك والتركيب وكذلك أعمال التحميل والتنزيل حيث ان شركة نقل اثاث ليس بالسهولة التي يظنها البعض
شركة نقل اثاث بالمدينة المنورة
فهي تحتاج إلي خبرة وكذلك تدريب علي نقل الاثاث بالمدينة المنورة حيث تختلف أنواع غرف النوم من صيني وشعبي إلي ايطالي في التصميم و طريقة التركيب مما يتطلب فنيين مدربين علي
تركيب غرف نوم بالمدينة المنورة
فك والتركيب