It's not easy for a woman to admit that she has lost her sexuality especially when most of us never had it to begin with. I started a group blog (find it under the groups) on having this surgery, why I had it and how it helped me. Shame on you women who criticize others in whose shoes you have not walked. Be a real woman and admit that you too would love to feel sexier even if only to yourself. These surgeons aren't mutilating anyone. These surgeons are offering, no one is forcing any of us to get it. Mutilation is a forceful, inhumane act. They actually go and train for this cosmetic surgery, just like any other kind of surgery. It's because of narrow minded women like yourselves that the rest of us had no one to talk to or learn from when we were not orgasmic well into our 30's. Unlike men who do not need instructions on how to use a penis, women need help and whatever help they get, they deserve it.
A tip for the ladies with the unruly hair. I relied on products to tame the grey that had a mind of it's own. There are plenty of you using these products now to hold your hair in place, like muds/pastes/pomeade. They not only hold your hair in place but add tons of shine to the beautiful silver hair. I was also recommended by my new stylist who supports my color to use a purple shampoo "ocasionally" to keep it whiter rather than picking up yellows. Finally last week I went out and bought a "clear" hair color, yes it is available. It acts like hair color but only adds shine. Just for a laugh I sat on the patio with that look of hair color covering my head and my husband came flying out demanding to know what I was doing to my hair! I said "relax, it's just clear honey". Later he told me that he had an immediate feeling of disappointment that I hade decided to go back to color. Ladies, those of you who want to do, do it. Now is the time, it is in and the new woman! PS) Don't try a wig on and think that is what you would look like. It looks fake and nasty. Be yourself. You'd be surprised at how supportive your co-workers can be.
A couple of years ago I started expressing a desire to go "natural" to my hair stylist who was very adamant about not being involved in it. I have often thought she felt she would lose money over time by not being able to color my hair but whatever! Eventually I had to change hair stylists in order to achieve my goal. In January of 2007 I had brown hair. I, too, went to a lighter level through weaving in what was supposed to be one of many steps. After the first weave I said "the heck with it I am going all the way right now". I warned my co-workers and friends of what to expect and asked them to understand. One day when at least 2 inches of my own natural hair color shined through my sister told me how beautiful it was for the first of a hundred times. My husband was already grey and welcomed the change eagerly. What more reason could I ask for? By July I went with a drastic short cut to rid myself of the colored ends and I felt reborn. I have never had a man tell me my hair was beautiful until now. I have had three strange men tell me how beautiful my hair is! One man at a restaraunt even said "That is the best hairdo on the planet, never change it!" I maintain a sassy attitude and a sassy "do" just as I did when it was brown but now I am never limited in my hairdo of the day depending on how much my roots were showing. I can't tell you how free it makes me feel. Yes there are times when I know I am looked at like an "old lady" now but not in the eyes of the people who love me and they are all that matters.
candicehudson (anonymous) says...
It's not easy for a woman to admit that she has lost her sexuality especially when most of us never had it to begin with. I started a group blog (find it under the groups) on having this surgery, why I had it and how it helped me. Shame on you women who criticize others in whose shoes you have not walked. Be a real woman and admit that you too would love to feel sexier even if only to yourself. These surgeons aren't mutilating anyone. These surgeons are offering, no one is forcing any of us to get it. Mutilation is a forceful, inhumane act. They actually go and train for this cosmetic surgery, just like any other kind of surgery. It's because of narrow minded women like yourselves that the rest of us had no one to talk to or learn from when we were not orgasmic well into our 30's. Unlike men who do not need instructions on how to use a penis, women need help and whatever help they get, they deserve it.
On Would you have cosmetic surgery 'down there'?
October 7, 2007 at 2:55 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
candicehudson (anonymous) says...
A tip for the ladies with the unruly hair. I relied on products to tame the grey that had a mind of it's own. There are plenty of you using these products now to hold your hair in place, like muds/pastes/pomeade. They not only hold your hair in place but add tons of shine to the beautiful silver hair. I was also recommended by my new stylist who supports my color to use a purple shampoo "ocasionally" to keep it whiter rather than picking up yellows. Finally last week I went out and bought a "clear" hair color, yes it is available. It acts like hair color but only adds shine. Just for a laugh I sat on the patio with that look of hair color covering my head and my husband came flying out demanding to know what I was doing to my hair! I said "relax, it's just clear honey". Later he told me that he had an immediate feeling of disappointment that I hade decided to go back to color. Ladies, those of you who want to do, do it. Now is the time, it is in and the new woman! PS) Don't try a wig on and think that is what you would look like. It looks fake and nasty. Be yourself. You'd be surprised at how supportive your co-workers can be.
On Revolution from the roots
October 7, 2007 at 2:16 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
candicehudson (anonymous) says...
A couple of years ago I started expressing a desire to go "natural" to my hair stylist who was very adamant about not being involved in it. I have often thought she felt she would lose money over time by not being able to color my hair but whatever! Eventually I had to change hair stylists in order to achieve my goal. In January of 2007 I had brown hair. I, too, went to a lighter level through weaving in what was supposed to be one of many steps. After the first weave I said "the heck with it I am going all the way right now". I warned my co-workers and friends of what to expect and asked them to understand. One day when at least 2 inches of my own natural hair color shined through my sister told me how beautiful it was for the first of a hundred times. My husband was already grey and welcomed the change eagerly. What more reason could I ask for? By July I went with a drastic short cut to rid myself of the colored ends and I felt reborn. I have never had a man tell me my hair was beautiful until now. I have had three strange men tell me how beautiful my hair is! One man at a restaraunt even said "That is the best hairdo on the planet, never change it!" I maintain a sassy attitude and a sassy "do" just as I did when it was brown but now I am never limited in my hairdo of the day depending on how much my roots were showing. I can't tell you how free it makes me feel. Yes there are times when I know I am looked at like an "old lady" now but not in the eyes of the people who love me and they are all that matters.
On Revolution from the roots
October 7, 2007 at 2:06 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )