I was relieved when my divorce was final. The whole marriage and relationship are like a bad dream now. FYI, I was only in the relationship 7 years (2 years married)...
I was really shattered/depressed BEFORE he knew I wanted the divorce. I was a mess - a lot of inner turmoil about the relationship, finances, and the future. I'd stopped doing everything I loved to do - no cooking, no creativity, no nothing. When he finally moved out a few months later, I was relieved. I moved the furniture, put in a new flower bed - anything to keep me moving and stop me from moping. The divorce was final on his birthday. Ha!
He left in Sept 2005. The 1.5 years have been solitary, lonely at times, and also terrific. I've reconnected with old friends and made great strides in embracing myself again: left an unfulfilling job, sold the house, returned to my home state, started grad school at age 44. I feel lighter, brighter, happier than I have in years. Hang in there, keep the focus on what you really love and what you want to do with the rest of your life.
pilgrimj (anonymous) says...
I was relieved when my divorce was final. The whole marriage and relationship are like a bad dream now. FYI, I was only in the relationship 7 years (2 years married)...
I was really shattered/depressed BEFORE he knew I wanted the divorce. I was a mess - a lot of inner turmoil about the relationship, finances, and the future. I'd stopped doing everything I loved to do - no cooking, no creativity, no nothing. When he finally moved out a few months later, I was relieved. I moved the furniture, put in a new flower bed - anything to keep me moving and stop me from moping. The divorce was final on his birthday. Ha!
He left in Sept 2005. The 1.5 years have been solitary, lonely at times, and also terrific. I've reconnected with old friends and made great strides in embracing myself again: left an unfulfilling job, sold the house, returned to my home state, started grad school at age 44. I feel lighter, brighter, happier than I have in years. Hang in there, keep the focus on what you really love and what you want to do with the rest of your life.
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