BoomerGirl Diary

OneFierceChick (anonymous) says...

Terry,

It's so hard meeting people isn't it? Especially since we are no longer part of the bar scene. And most of my friends at this age are already married, and have married friends.

It sounds crazy I know, but have you tried online dating? There are millions of people doing it successfully I might add.

I would recommend giving it a try. After a bad break-up, I gave it a shot and it was a real esteem booster! To see all of the guys that check out your "ad" can make you feel pretty good. I went on a few meet & greets, and many of the guys wanted to see me again...which is a nice feeling to know you're still wanted! I'm talking and meeting guys, so we'll see what happens in the future. Hopefully I'll find someone special soon.

So sign-up, put some pics on and start talking to some single guys in your area. If for nothing else it'll make you feel better knowing people want to get to know you!

January 26, 2007 at 2:29 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )

cincybabs60 (anonymous) says...

I'm 46. Been divorced since 99 after 17 years of marriage. Dating is not fun at this age i've tried on-line sites and speed dating. No luck for me. I don't go to bars or clubs,so meeting men is rare for me. What might help you is finding a class or walking group in your city and meeting friends male and female who you might meet a dating prospect through. If you don't at least your active and made friends.

January 26, 2007 at 4:01 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )

preshette (anonymous) says...

Many of us dated, thought we found the right person, and that was the “happily ever after” ending. Unfortunately, sometimes the end comes sooner than we thought and we’re hit with the reality of maybe having to get back on that dating thread-mill. The only problem is that most of our dating skills were leaned back when we were in our teens or early twenties. What to do now? I certainly am not going to bar hop, party crash, stay up all night and work the next day like I did when I was younger. And, I’m not going to have as many guys turn their heads to look at me anymore. Sooooo..I learned to be patient, do the things I like to do, and people come into and out of my life. I haven’t found the right one yet, but I’ve made a few friends. And yes, sometimes I’ve been hurt in the process and think I should have paid attention to the words of songs like “Love Stinks” and “Love Hurts”…..but I go on.

February 9, 2007 at 5:01 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )

CharlieGirl (anonymous) says...

I should know how to do this because I've been divorced for about 15 years and dating much of the time but I was recently shocked or dismayed when my daughter told me that if I find a man that I'm interested in I should make the first move, invite him to coffee or a drink. I haven't been doing this and sometimes feel like the good ones "slipped away". I would like to have feedback on this. Has the world changed so much that women have to make the first move now?
This is frightening but I know older women who have basically ambushed the man and ended up happily married. Tell me straight, sisters, is this what the world has come to?

February 17, 2007 at 10:55 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )

Outdoorgirl (anonymous) says...

I've been divorced for 16 years. Entering the dating scene can be torture. Most newly divorced have been raising children and are kind of out of the single scene. Reentering is difficult to say the least. I think everyone who is going thru a divorce should talk to a therapist, it takes 18 to 24 months to work thru your divorce issues before you're ready to date seriously again. You need alone time to get yourself feeling good. Take this time to
read some self-help books, have a makeover to get back into stylish clothes, hairdos, glasses, make-up,etc. When you look good you feel good, and others can see it. Things have drastically changed in the dating scene since we were in our twenties. Try a confidential and secure on-line dating site that won't put your picture and profile all over the world for anyone to see. Need to be smart about on-line dating. Again a good therapist can help you identify and wade through all the issues you will face as a newly single woman of a certain age. Hope this helps and good luck, Outdoorgirl

March 12, 2007 at 9:34 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )

Outdoorgirl (anonymous) says...

I have a question to ask of everyone...has anyone dated a widower?? Would like to have some dialog with anyone who has been in this situation.

March 12, 2007 at 9:36 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )